Bean is 9 and a half.
She has a group of friends that see each other often, a thus, a lot of sleepovers occur.
For the other girls, that is. Not for Bean; not unless I'm sleeping over, too.
It's not fair and I get it. I remember being told 'no' when I asked to go over to a friend's house and it was like the world was coming to an end. I can only imagine how much more it sucks when the main (and sometimes only) reason for the 'no' is D. I hate it, she REALLY hates it, but that's where we are right now.
So, this week Bean's numbers have been wonky, wonky, wonky. I'm sure it has to do with the fact that it's full moon time AND that I have to log her BGs to prepare for camp that starts on Sunday. (UGH, packing!)
Because of those extra wonky numbers, the 'no' came pretty fast last night when Bean asked if she could join in on the sleepover two of her friends were having. Granted, I was a 'good mom' and at least told her I'd talk to Ubergeek about it before we told her no and the fit started.
She was mad. No, she was super-duper pissed!
We let her stomp off and have her time to fume and cry, then Ubergeek went to talk to her.
When they came back, I was informed that the sleepover was now happening at our house. Oh, joy!
Now before you get all 'you shouldn't give into a fit' preachy on me, this is only the second time in three years that we have adjusted sleepovers for Bean and honestly in those three years these friends have had hundreds of sleepovers without her. We generally stick to our guns and she eventually gets over it and life goes on.
I guess last night's fit was followed up by a conversation that warranted a sleepover at our house. And, honestly, it wasn't a that big of a deal. My house was still relatively clean from my mother's visit. Stores were still open so I could get breakfast stuff. It was only two friends and we have car space and sleeping space.
Bean gets the shaft a lot because of D. And, yes, it isn't fair and yes, it sucks. And, yes, most of the time we have a 'suck it up and move on' approach because, let's face it, life isn't fair. But, every once in a while we 'give in' and rearrange everyone's plans to try to help her feel a little more normal.
As a parent of a Child with Type 1 Diabetes, I must "Learn from Yesterday, Live for Today, HOPE for Tomorrow." ~ Albert Einstein
Us too..."Suck it up, life ain't fair"...but I woulda done the same too. I hope you guys all had FUN!
ReplyDeleteYeah, those days are coming when the girls ask to go to sleep overs. Diabetes sucks. Ubergeek is a great dad, but he learned from you. Take care and I hope the sleep over goes well.
ReplyDeleteElise wants to have a sleepover so bad, but between a baby, bg checks, and a toddler with night terrors; we get no sleep as it is in this house. I don't have the heart to tell her it's just not going to happen.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe how young sleepovers start these days! I know I was much older (and no diabetes involved) when I was finally able to have a sleepover with a friend.
ReplyDeleteAnd we always had to do it at her house because she got horribly homesick. We couldn't even sleep in her living room on the pull out couch - she could ONLY sleep in her bed!!
I think you did exactly the right thing... she got to enjoy the sleepover and D didn't get in the way.
ReplyDeleteWe have slowly graduated over the years to the point where an occasional overnight at a very few select friends' houses is allowed, but only those parents who are well informed and ready to take on the d-challenge! I send a ton of written information (too much, per my husband) and always find myself waking up and praying a LOT during the night, but we've made it through. I still prefer that she sleeps at home, though!
Completely rational solution! Luke's already asking for sleepovers (at 4), and the only way that'd happen right now would be me in my PJs as well on someone's sofa. :/ Hope the girls had fun!
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