Bean is 9 and a half.
She has a group of friends that see each other often, a thus, a lot of sleepovers occur.
For the other girls, that is. Not for Bean; not unless I'm sleeping over, too.
It's not fair and I get it. I remember being told 'no' when I asked to go over to a friend's house and it was like the world was coming to an end. I can only imagine how much more it sucks when the main (and sometimes only) reason for the 'no' is D. I hate it, she REALLY hates it, but that's where we are right now.
So, this week Bean's numbers have been wonky, wonky, wonky. I'm sure it has to do with the fact that it's full moon time AND that I have to log her BGs to prepare for camp that starts on Sunday. (UGH, packing!)
Because of those extra wonky numbers, the 'no' came pretty fast last night when Bean asked if she could join in on the sleepover two of her friends were having. Granted, I was a 'good mom' and at least told her I'd talk to Ubergeek about it before we told her no and the fit started.
She was mad. No, she was super-duper pissed!
We let her stomp off and have her time to fume and cry, then Ubergeek went to talk to her.
When they came back, I was informed that the sleepover was now happening at our house. Oh, joy!
Now before you get all 'you shouldn't give into a fit' preachy on me, this is only the second time in three years that we have adjusted sleepovers for Bean and honestly in those three years these friends have had hundreds of sleepovers without her. We generally stick to our guns and she eventually gets over it and life goes on.
I guess last night's fit was followed up by a conversation that warranted a sleepover at our house. And, honestly, it wasn't a that big of a deal. My house was still relatively clean from my mother's visit. Stores were still open so I could get breakfast stuff. It was only two friends and we have car space and sleeping space.
Bean gets the shaft a lot because of D. And, yes, it isn't fair and yes, it sucks. And, yes, most of the time we have a 'suck it up and move on' approach because, let's face it, life isn't fair. But, every once in a while we 'give in' and rearrange everyone's plans to try to help her feel a little more normal.